How people find out their sexual orientation This is different from deciding not to have sex with anyone (abstinence or celibacy). Asexual-not sexually attracted to any gender.Pansexual-attracted to those of any gender.Bisexual-attracted both to people of their own binary gender and to those of the other binary gender.Gay-attracted only or almost only to those of the same gender."Binary" is the idea that there are only two genders, male and female. Heterosexual-attracted only or almost only to the other binary (male/female) gender.There are different kinds of sexual orientation. Sexual orientation means how you are attracted romantically and sexually to other people.